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#885027 - 23/09/2010 21:13 General Notes on Psychology!
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This thread is dedicated to the exploration of 10 basic issues in society:
  • All-or-nothing thinking.
  • Overgeneralisation.
  • Mental filter.
  • Disqualifying the positive.
  • Jumping to conclusions.
  • Magnification or minimisation.
  • Emotional reasoning.
  • Should statements
  • Labelling and mislabelling.
  • Personalisation.

This thread is more of a provisory than for people to pass judgment. For this reason I will not be ďmaintainingĒ it. This may need further explaining in due course, however for the moment Iíll leave at that smile.


Edited by -Cosmic- (23/09/2010 21:16)
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#885042 - 23/09/2010 22:51 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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And your point would be?
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#885164 - 24/09/2010 18:23 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: SBT]
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sounds like most of what ive done thisarvo.. D'oh..
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#885210 - 24/09/2010 23:46 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Shayne]
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sounds like parenting to me.
....especially the 'should statements'.
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#885250 - 25/09/2010 09:55 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Arnoldnut]
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I can say what it looks the same thing as, and that's a list of issues addressed in cognitive therapy for depression (and probably other illnesses) and dealing with lack of assertiveness. They are the sort of responses we make in certain situations. I've had to deal with them myself.

For example, the 'Shoulds'. They are a nasty family. When we are down and out, we hear a voice saying 'you should have done such and such, or 'you should be grateful that there are others worse off', and so on.

Arnoldnut is right. The 'shoulds' are an example of that 'parent' thing. Nothing in those issues is a judgement, because addressing them is designed to be constructive and corrective.

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#885378 - 25/09/2010 21:41 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Keith]
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Then there is "I'm sick of being 'Should' upon" - when started early enough one is likely to have no idea who they are; simply being what someone else wanted them to be.

It seems to me that the 10 issues mentioned are the key to how to suffer.

Better to stand nowhere, offer no resistance and love everyone and everything including yourself and even love yourself for not liking what I have just written.

I'll go quiet now wink
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#888269 - 06/10/2010 15:16 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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The Power of Language:

Alternatives:

Iíll have a go/I donít
I could/Iím choosing to/not to
I may be responsible
Itís an opportunity
Iíve decided to
Lifeís an adventure
Next time
I know I can handle it
I know if I....
I rarely
Most of the time
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#897101 - 10/11/2010 22:39 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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Originally Posted By: TranslucidusW
It seems to me that the 10 issues mentioned are the key to how to suffer.

Which is why I made dot points rather than gave long-winded explanations smile.

I think two of the most important points (on a more positive note) would be to:
  • Lighten up and not take life too seriously;
  • It's ok to make mistakes that help you to learn.


Edited by -Cosmic- (10/11/2010 22:43)
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#897672 - 12/11/2010 21:32 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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The most important thing is to know the most important thing - until you do your life is a process and a curriculum leading to the answer.
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#897768 - 13/11/2010 13:10 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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Originally Posted By: TranslucidusW
The most important thing is to know the most important thing - until you do your life is a process and a curriculum leading to the answer.

In an everyday-life sort of sense, that may be different for different people. I think it really is circumstance-dependent.
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#898424 - 15/11/2010 20:16 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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Originally Posted By: -Cosmic-
. . . . I think it really is circumstance-dependent.


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#898865 - 18/11/2010 10:58 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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I am thinking (scuse me smile )...that we might be coming from difference angles, or something like that. I prefer practical steps smile.


Edited by -Cosmic- (18/11/2010 10:59)
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#899994 - 22/11/2010 10:38 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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The mind simply measure and divides and the consideration of "Angles" exists in a mind trying to put into logic such measurements and divisions (eg your "view" and my "view").

Knowing just IS; in terms of my last peice in Cosmology.

Practical steps are great though for the measurement and division that is the mind's srong suit. The mind stays in itself until it doesn't. Then the Watcher in our equipment SEES.

In western science all participants must be seen to be fully immersed in mind or the other self-immersed minds get annoyed.

The trick is to "Appear" thus, but for there to also be a transcendence of mind into intuition and "being" from which breakthroughs appear.

But don't tell anyone wink
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#900016 - 22/11/2010 13:57 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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Originally Posted By: TranslucidusW
The mind simply measure and divides and the consideration of "Angles" exists in a mind trying to put into logic such measurements and divisions (eg your "view" and my "view").

If you could imagine talking to me in person, face-to-face, you then might have an idea of what I meant by my last comment smile.
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#900664 - 24/11/2010 23:26 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: TranslucidusW]
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Originally Posted By: TranslucidusW
Then there is "I'm sick of being 'Should' upon" - when started early enough one is likely to have no idea who they are; simply being what someone else wanted them to be.

That is a big one - I should do this, I should do that...

I should post a comment...!

So here's an alternative:

I would like to post a comment to express my point of view without feeling that my comment will be in anyway be should upon. Or that I should have certain expectations about the responses I may get.


Edited by -Cosmic- (24/11/2010 23:31)
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#901872 - 29/11/2010 17:42 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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I don't do mind games.
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#902019 - 30/11/2010 00:11 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: SBT]
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You must be single then? All women do mind games, it's just what they do.
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#902161 - 30/11/2010 13:52 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Sandfly]
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ooh, thats a bit of a generalisation don't you think...? :-)
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#902236 - 30/11/2010 16:36 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: shama]
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Hmm mine doesn't. After 32 years of marriage she knows not to play mind games with me. If you want something done or not done then tell me or pizz off and do it yourself is my motto. I don't do hints, vieled suggestions or clues.
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#903776 - 03/12/2010 13:26 Re: General Notes on Psychology! [Re: Seira]
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Originally Posted By: -Cosmic-
Originally Posted By: TranslucidusW
Then there is "I'm sick of being 'Should' upon" - when started early enough one is likely to have no idea who they are; simply being what someone else wanted them to be.

That is a big one - I should do this, I should do that...

I should post a comment...!

So here's an alternative:

I would like to post a comment to express my point of view without feeling that my comment will be in anyway be should upon. Or that I should have certain expectations about the responses I may get.

These comments were designed to be helpful smile.
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